Therapy for expats, olim and immigrants — adapting after relocation, in Tel Aviv and online

I’m Daria Nektorova, a Gestalt therapist and supervisor, member of EAGT. I work with people who have moved to another country — individually and with couples, in English and Russian.

I moved to Israel myself in 2022, so I know first-hand how familiar sources of support can disappear after a move. Whether you made aliyah, relocated for work or followed a partner, therapy can be a place to make sense of what this change means for you.

What people come to me with

  • loneliness and the lack of a close circle in a new place;
  • loss of status, career or self-confidence;
  • feeling that you belong nowhere and that life still feels temporary;
  • missing your old life — and feeling guilty about it;
  • the move has intensified conflicts in your couple or family;
  • not knowing whether to stay, go back or move on.

Formats and fees

Individual therapy, 55 minutesIn person in Tel Aviv — ₪400Online — ₪350 / €85
Couples therapy, 90 minutesIn person in Tel Aviv — ₪600Online — ₪530 / €125

In-person sessions take place at Carlebach St 10, Tel Aviv. Online sessions are held on Zoom for clients in Israel, Europe, the US, Canada and elsewhere — see online therapy for expats.

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Below is an article on what we lose when we relocate and how therapy can support adaptation.

Emigration and adaptation

Moving to another country is rarely a simple decision.

Sometimes people leave because of war, threats to safety, political or economic instability. Sometimes the reasons are work, relationships, their children's future, or the impossibility of continuing their former life. Even when the decision is made independently, it may still be constrained — the best of the available options, but far from easy.

Emigration means not only beginning a new life, but also breaking with the familiar. Hope and relief can coexist with grief, fear, anger and doubt. You may miss even a place where it was unsafe or impossible to stay. You may understand the need to leave and still grieve what you had to leave behind.

At first, mobilisation helps you keep going: finding housing, completing paperwork, settling children, and navigating healthcare, transport and language. When urgent tasks become fewer, the emotional impact of the move may become more noticeable. This does not mean that you made the wrong decision or are failing to cope. It can be part of a complex and gradual process of adapting to a new reality.
  • What we lose after relocation
    Emigration brings gains, but it also involves losses. We leave behind familiar relationships, understandable rules, places we love, work, social status and the freedom to express ourselves in our first language.

    Even ordinary tasks in a new country can require considerable effort: making a medical appointment, dealing with paperwork, speaking to a child’s teacher or working out how colleagues communicate. What used to happen automatically now demands conscious attention.

    Because of this, a capable and independent adult may unexpectedly feel helpless, dependent or less competent.
  • “I am no longer who I used to be”
    After relocation, a person’s sense of self often changes. A professional may temporarily lose their familiar status. A sociable person may discover that forming new connections is difficult. Someone used to being independent may become dependent on a partner, public services or people who speak the language better.

    Questions arise: “Who am I now?”, “Where is my place?”, “What remains of my former life?” They may be accompanied by the painful feeling: “I do not belong anywhere.”

    Adaptation is not only about learning a language and everyday rules. It is also the gradual restoration of identity — the ability to feel adult, capable and recognisable to yourself again.
  • Loneliness and changes in relationships
    Relationships from before the move inevitably change. Even people who are close to us but remain in another country may struggle to understand the new experience. At the same time, building friendship and support in a new place takes time.

    Relocation can also affect relationships within a family. One partner may adapt more quickly while the other longs more intensely for the life they left behind. Children and parents also adjust at different speeds. Close people may therefore drift apart at the very time they need each other most.
  • How a sense of home develops
    Adapting does not mean forgetting your former life, giving up your culture or having to love everything about the new country. It is the gradual ability to connect different parts of your experience: keeping what matters from the past while creating relationships, routines and sources of support in the present.

    A sense of home does not come only from citizenship, language proficiency or the number of years you have lived somewhere. It grows from everyday details: familiar routes, people you can call, favourite places and experiences in which you once again feel like a participant in your own life.

    There is no correct timetable for adaptation. If life remains difficult after relocation, it does not mean that something is wrong with you. Restoring stability and belonging may require not more effort, but more time, attention to yourself and support.
When emigration becomes a reason to seek help
Adaptation after relocation rarely happens quickly or in a straight line. Periods of interest and excitement may give way to exhaustion, confusion, longing for your former life or doubts about the decision to move. These experiences do not mean that you are not trying hard enough or chose the wrong country. You may want to seek support if you:
  • often feel lonely and lack close, meaningful connection;
  • are grieving the loss of familiar status, profession or confidence in yourself;
  • feel anxious or tense because of the language, cultural differences and unfamiliar rules;
  • do not feel at home anywhere;
  • miss your former life and feel guilty about that longing;
  • feel increasingly irritated with the new country, other people or yourself;
  • notice that relocation has intensified conflict within your couple or family;
  • cannot decide whether to stay, return or move to another country;
  • know that considerable time has passed, but life still feels temporary.
How therapy can help
Therapy is not meant to make you adapt faster, force you to love the new country or cut off the part of your life that came before. It can offer a space where gratitude and disappointment, interest and grief, the wish to stay and the wish to return can coexist.
  • acknowledge and grieve the losses connected with relocation;
  • restore a sense of continuity in your life and identity;
  • understand which former sources of support can be kept and which new ones can be created gradually;
  • cope with loneliness and build close relationships in a new environment;
  • work through changing roles and tensions within a family or couple;
  • regain a sense of competence and influence over your own life.
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